(un)Natural Mom

(un)Natural Mom

(un)Natural Mom: Why You Are the Perfect Mom for Your Kids (David C Cook, August 2016)

Do you feel like you’re the only mom who serves store-bought birthday treats, dreads school plays, and misses the days of going to the bathroom by herself?

Unnatural Mom gives you permission to say that mothering doesn’t always come naturally to you. Parenting expert and self-proclaimed unnatural mom Hettie Brittz helps you…

—Recognize how unrealistic our culture’s standards of mothering are
—Move beyond the myths of “supermom”
—Complete a profile to determine your own parenting style
—Understand and forgive the mothers who hurt you
—Embrace your capabilities as well as your challenges

Come find new hope in discovering that every mother has unique gifts. In Christ, the “unnatural” mom becomes the supernatural mom who is just right for her family!

Learn more and purchase a copy.


  • Author Hettie Brittz has given a lot of mothers just what they need to hear. Sometimes mother’s seem to in competition everyday with the mother next door. The author tells of different experiences that many mothers have probably had happen to them. Some of her experiences are hard to read about and some were kind of told in a funny way. As a grandmother I really liked the book. It was a very nice story and offered hope for troubled mothers who thought they were doing it wrong. I give this book a 5/5. I was given this book for a review and these are all my opinions.

  • Hettie encourages mothers by offering hope and discovery through stories of her own as well as others. To be honest, mothering has always come naturally to me. Perhaps it’s because I’ve always wanted to become one and felt tremendously blessed on the day that I did.

  • Raventhreads says:

    I really, really felt empowered by this book. I’ve read about temperaments and personalities before, but I’ve never felt like there was a tool that totally got me as a parent and my parenting style before. I also loved that Brittz uses the example of one mom for each of the four main chapters because I felt that, by focusing on her life, I could really picture what it would be like to live as a mom with that temperament

  • In the book, (un) Natural Mom by Hettie Brittz, she brought so much into perspective. I learned a lot about myself, and was encouraged that I’m not the only one struggling in this beautiful mess of a ministry. By chapter 2-I was in tears.

    There are about 5 different profiles that Hettie describes. She gives the good, the bad, and the scriptures to wrap it all up. I would be so bold as to say this could very well help heal the wounds we mamas have inflicted on ourselves by focusing on our shortcomings. It exposes those, but illuminates our strengths that we seem to just skim over.

  • Brittz does an amazing job of showing you that you are a great mom based on your parenting style/personality. I would recommend this book to any struggling mom out there looking to see that they are really the best mom for their children.

  • I can’t say enough good things about this book. It is something I will go back and reread parts of for years to come. In the world we live in, where it is so easy to share only the “best of…” pieces of our lives, it is a refreshing reminder that everyone has faults, not everyone is a natural at everything, and everyone has good qualities as well.

  • There are so many books out there on parenting that it’s hard to find one that offers a unique perspective that might bring some enlightenment to the reader. Hettie Brittz does just that in (un)Natural Mom: Why You are the Perfect Mom for Your Kids.

    This book delivers a unique perspective on mothering that provides some relief to the mad race of raising perfect children while not being a perfect person. It allows moms to see themselves-the good; the bad; the ugly-and realize God created us to parent our children and their needs just the right way.

  • Thankfully, in Hettie Brittz’s book, she debunks the myths that fuel my feelings in those “fail moments”. We are not all made to be the same type mom, it is okay if we are imperfect. Who gets to say what’s perfect anyway, right? Brittz shares how we can embrace our temperaments and even our flaws all while being the perfect mother for our kids. She has really reminded me that, although I am not perfect by the world’s standards, God knew exactly what he was doing when he chose me as the mother of my son.

  • kcreatives says:

    I like how personal the author is. Most moms just want someone who is willing to share that life isn’t perfect, but not just leave them there – but point them to SCripture. I think the author does this well. I don’t think you need to include schedules because some women might not relate – but all in all a good book.

  • The author shows us how to achieve “amazing mom” status and it’s actually easier than you may think.

  • What I liked most, perhaps, was the fresh content. Like most moms, I’ve read many parenting self-help books with only slight twists on the same topics, but this one had a unique spin on things. On top of that, Brittz’s insights into temperament and personality-types were spot-on.

  • Moments says:

    I absolutely LOVED “(un)Natural Mom;” this is a must-read for all mothers! I feel like we are all caught up in comparing ourselves, our families, everything about our lives with others in today’s society, even more so with the abundant use of social media. We are all about sharing and at time oversharing, and comparing ourselves to others. Hettie helps each reader to realize that she is the perfect mother to her children and to discover her strengths and really what makes you mom.

  • Come find new hope in discovering that every mother has unique gifts. In Christ, the “unnatural” mom becomes the supernatural mom who is just right for her family!

  • Not only has the book reminded me let go of the need for approval, it has helped me to be “me”, the person God created me to be, as I parent my children using my own parenting style. According to the profiling test referred to in this book, I am a Boxwood Tree mom, as well as a Box-Rose nurturer. As I reading about this parenting style, I saw

  • I love Hettie’s openness and encouragement throughout the book. She shows us that it is okay that we are not like every other so called “perfect” mom. Each of us is called to mother in a different way since we were all created to be different from the start. I love how she talks about temperaments and how we can use that to help us mother in a better way and to reach out to the temperaments of our kids.

  • (un)Natural Mom will encourage and uplift you as a mom and show you despite any perceived imperfections you have, you are the perfect mom for your kids.

  • The book is written in such a way it takes the pressure off the mom. As I read about author Hettie’s inadequacies, as a young mom, I was able to let go of some of my misfortunes. For me it seemed every other mother was a natural, while I was struggling. Every other mother could probably tell I was struggling, but I was not about to admit it to them or myself. God did not make us to be some other mom. He made us to be mom to our own children, whatever that may look like.

  • I loved this book. I think it is an awesome resource that all moms can really use. I would love to read more by Hettie Brittz in the future, too.

  • It highlights and emphasizes the fact that there is no wrong or right way to be a mother. To be a good mother, all you have to be is you. 🙂 Loved this book.

  • An engaging and insightful book that helps you determine your parenting traits and embrace the gifts God has given to you. I loved reading about the different types of moms! I recognized many of my friends as well as myself.

  • I really enjoyed the author’s writing style. I found myself laughing or sharing little pieces of the book to my friends or husband as I read. Brittz is honest and open about her faults and fails as well as her positives. She takes an upbeat, positive look at each personality and provides concrete ways that we can change the negative and enhance the positive. She uses her faith to weave a message of hope and promise for each reader. At the end of each chapter are reflective questions that help a mom to focus on what is important in her mothering journey. My only negative is that you have to purchase the Tall Trees Parenting Profile, and it isn’t cheap.

  • I have read a lot of parenting books in recent years, but none of them have grabbed my heart quite like this one. I wore out my pen and highlighter as I underlined, marked, and made notes all over this book.

  • This book helped me to realize that God has given me exactly what I need to perfectly parent my children the way He designed. Hettie is vulnerable, honest, and comforting as she shares her own unnatural mom moments and encourages the reader to embrace those times we feel the most inadequate.

  • Noveltea says:

    It was quite interesting. There were many things that didn’t apply to me at this stage in life (duh), but I was surprised at how much I still gleaned from the book. Miss Hettie pretty much created her own “personality system” for mothers, using trees for the different categories.

  • Having a background in Psychology and a real interest in human behavior made this read enjoyable for me. As a mother, this opened my eyes to how my particular personality plays a role in the way I parent, while pointing out which strengths I could try to sharpen, and the areas that I could work on to be the Supermom we all strive to be for our children.

  • As you spend time with in the pages of this book the lessons that are learned are priceless. I have gained such a greater understanding of what temperament really means and how to truly manage it as well as use it in a positive manner while training up my children. We are all uniquely created there is no doubt about that. But we need to accept we are all uniquely created there is no doubt about that. But we need to accept and embrace how you make sleep we were created to be so that we can truly do all that the Lord has for us to do.

  • What I liked most, perhaps, was the fresh content. Like most moms, I’ve read many parenting self-help books with only slight twists on the same topics, but this one had a unique spin on things. On top of that, Brittz’s insights into temperament and personality-types were spot-on. I know many people don’t care for labels, seeing them as putting people in a box. Personally, I find them helpful. They help me to define edges, to discern placement, and they enhance my understanding. Brittz is careful to add a disclaimer to the effect that not every single trait described for a certain type will apply, and this certainly was the case for me. But I found enough resonance to render her conclusions credible.

  • A Rup Life says:

    I like this book because it gives you permission to be the mom you naturally tend to sway to. You need to realize who you are and that God made you this way. You are the mom for your kids because they are your kids! It is freeing to give yourself permission to be your own type of Mom.

    The author breaks down Moms into 4 main categories giving examples and strengths for each. There is a reflection at the end of each mom type to help you digest what you learn and think further.

  • I was utterly delighted to receive a copy of this book because although my little one is only 15 months old I already am feeling the pressure of not doing enough and not being one of those perfect Mom’s. This book is a great reminded that I am a good Mom and I am just what my child needs, it helps one focus on ones strengths and also talks about ones weaknesses so you can look at ways to overcome them.
    I loved the authors down to earth approach, she writes in such a warm inviting way that really pulls one in and want to read more.
    This book is a must for any Mom!
    I received a copy of this book in exchange for my honest opinion.

  • This book was not quite what I was expecting. I thought there would be more about how unrealistic our culture’s standards of mothering are and moving beyond the myths of “supermom”. 6 out of 9 chapters in (un)Natural were given to the parenting-style profile and gave examples for the various types of parenting-styles. I enjoyed reading the different styles, but it seemed more like a “how to” book than a book on relying on Jesus.

  • EmpowerMoms says:

    The introduction and chapter 1 is about the author, Hetti, and her personal experiences with being an imperfect mom-an (un)natural mom.

    She goes on to describe 7 myths in chapter 2.
    1. Every woman must be naturally maternal
    2. Every mom must get pregnant naturally
    3. Every mom must give birth naturally
    4. Every mom must be a natural at breastfeeding and continue as long as possible
    5. Every mom must be a natural homemaker
    6. Every mom must find parenting natural
    7. Every mom should keep all things unnatural away from her family table

  • If you are wanting a parenting book that DOESN’T tell you how to parent, ‘(un)Natural Mom: Why You are the Perfect Mom for Your Kids’ is the book you want! There is something so very refreshing found when an author is willing to tell of her own mishaps as a parent not merely as ways to build teaching moments for the reader, but rather as ways to build connection with the reader.

    Hattie Brittz’s honesty, authenticity, and observations create a wonderful blend of humor & knowledge. The writing style presented within the book makes it very easy for the reader to see how her own unique parenting style connects her to her kids. All in all, the book is fully meant to be one that encourages & validates moms, recognizing that we each are on our own paths of motherhood.

  • “(un)Natural Mom” by Hettie Brittz is a great book written to help mothers realize that it’s okay if they aren’t the perfect mom 24/7.

  • Sydney says:

    (un)Natural Mom is a fantastic book written for mom’s to help them recognize that they don’t have to be perfect in their parenting methods. It discusses how moms are criticized sometimes for the way they do things or just feel inadequate all on their own when comparing themselves to other moms. This book is just right for empowering and inspiring moms to be the best mom they can be in their own skin. I would recommend this book to any struggling or successful mom or mom to be.

  • (un)Natural Mom is a gem that has the potential to be a wonderfully helpful – even life changing – resource for any mom who takes the time to read it. In fact, the greatest compliment I can bestow is to say that I wish Hettie had written it 38 years ago…Hettie writes with intelligence, honesty, humor and passion, and there’s not one boring moment. I especially like how she can laugh at herself…One thought that especially spoke to me is … don’t force yourself or let the expectations of others force you into a “natural” style that isn’t you, for the Master Designer made you to fit the design of your children. Highly recommended.

  • This really could not have come at a more perfect time, seriously. Parenting is hard, but parenting special needs (mostly solo) is really hard. I can’t count the number of times I’ve questions my abilities as a mom.

  • I think mothers of all ages and walks of life can relate to this book. Hettie shares her motherhood experiences…her triumphs and downfalls. She wants readers to know that no matter what, you are the perfect momma to your kiddos. I would highly recommend this book to all mothers! It should be required reading to becoming a mom!

  • This book helps mothers “recognize the unrealistic” standards that society has put on us. Every mom plans to be, then deals with the guilt of not being able to be ‘supermom’. This book really gives a pointed discussion as a friend and therapist to know what type of mom you are, without the guilt or judgement. It helps you to understand your parenting style, and work with and through your challenges.

  • Oh my this book has come to me at a time that I absolutely needed it to. It was a wonderful read, very encouraging and even hilarious at times.

  • Hettie Brittz’s book (un)Natural MomBrittz’s book (un)Natural Mom is a refreshing drink of water for the mom’s out there who, like me, find that motherhood is sometimes a true challenge – a joyful one, but a challenge. She opens the book with stores of her own parenting failures and instantly makes you feel like you are not alone. She helps you to realize how unrealistic our culture’s standards of mothering are and move beyond the myths of the “supermom”. She offers a parenting-style profile to determine your own parenting traits and embrace your capabilities as well as your challenges. This book is a true guide full of hope that will help you realize your unique gifts in motherhood and how you are just the right mom for YOUR family!

  • Lioness Dae says:

    (un)Natural Mom is a good read. I love how Hettie is so truthful about her motherhood journey. We live in such a judgmental society and having the courage to admit and publicize your “faults” is takes amazing courage. I hope this book can help other moms feel at ease knowing they aren’t the only ones being judged about their parenting style but also understand they are doing it their way which makes it right.

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