A Friend in Me by Pamela Havey Lau

Is it possible to experience close relationships with women who have different thoughts on church, different experiences with family, and different ways of talking about God? Pamela Lau’s new book, A Friend in Me, outlines five patterns women need to internalize and practice for initiating relationships. Most significantly, she reminds you that there doesn’t need to be a divide between generations of women. Together, we can have a global impact—and experience a deeper faith than we’ve ever known.

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A Friend in Me (David C. Cook, June 2015)

Young women long for relational connection with women further ahead of them on the journey. Yet, without realizing it, many of us tend to distance ourselves from those in younger generations.

Can we really have close relationships with women who have different thoughts on church, different experiences with family, and different ways of talking about God? Where do we start?

In A Friend in Me, Pam Lau shows you how to be a safe place for the younger women in your life. She offers five patterns women need to internalize and practice for initiating relationships and talking about issues such as faith, forgiveness, sexuality, and vocation. Most significantly, she reminds you that there doesn’t need to be a divide between generations of women. Together, we can have a global impact—and experience a deeper faith than we’ve ever known.

Learn more and purchase a copy.

Pamela Havey Lau

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Pam Lau is the author of Soul Strength and numerous articles for such publications as Christian Scholar’s Review and Christianity Today. She has taught writing at George Fox University and speaks around the country at conferences and retreats. A graduate of Liberty University and Colorado State University, Lau lives near Portland, Oregon, with her husband and three daughters.

Find out more about Pamela at http://www.pamelalau.com.

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Do other women see you as a safe haven?

Author encourages readers to seek out authentic relationships with women of all ages

4/10/2015 || Seattle: With 232 million people using Twitter every month and more than 1.3 billion people on Facebook last year, it’s safe to say we live in an incredibly “connected” world. Yet with hundreds of friends and loved ones just a click away on social media or a text away on the phone, why do so many women feel isolated and alone? With ladies longing for meaningful connections to help them grow in their faith and find emotional wholeness, now is the perfect time for Pamela Havey Lau’s new book, A Friend in Me: How to be a Safe Haven for Other Women (David C Cook/June 1, 2015/ ISBN: 978-1434708649/ $15.99).

Women today also crave relational connection with women who are further ahead of them on their journey. So many want mentors, guides and role models to whom they can bring their accomplishments and failures to feel affirmed, mutually respected and understood.

In A Friend in Me, Lau shows women how to be a safe place for those who are in earlier stages of life than they are, teaching them habits for strengthening bonds such as offering comfort, acting with understanding and relating with compassion. She also offers five patterns women need to practice for initiating relationships and talking through tough issues such as faith, forgiveness, sexuality and vocation. “The way the older generation talks about these topics can send the message, ‘I don’t agree with the way you’re living your life,’” Lau admits. “On the other hand, the way younger women support themselves financially and build relationships may send the message, ‘I am fine, and I don’t need your support.’”

Lau’s passion to help women of all ages find kinship comes from a personal place; after her young brother-in-law and his fiancée were killed in a head-on collision, she quickly realized how much she needed to hear how other women journeyed through their own grief. Lau believes these connections are a key ingredient in spiritual growth and encourages readers that a large age gap isn’t needed for mentorship; a mom of teens can offer valuable advice to a mother of toddlers, just as a newlywed can share tips with a newly engaged friend.

Through Lau’s own personal heartbreaks and deep theological studies, A Friend in Me examines the incredible impact women can have on their world when they unite and pattern their lives after Jesus. “I’m praying for a movement around the globe for women to find satisfaction, healing and safety in closer relationships with the women God has placed in their lives,” Lau reveals. 

A Friend in Me ultimately succeeds in reminding readers that age differences do not have to create a divide between women and that together they can experience a deeper faith than they ever thought possible.

Learn more about Pamela Havey Lau and A Friend in Me at www.pamelalau.com, on Facebook (pamela.h.lau) or by following her on Twitter (@pamelahaveylau).

Advance Praise

A Friend in Me is a must-read for any woman seeking to build meaningful relationships with the next generation of women. Transparent, yet practical, Pam Lau’s message is filled with stories of hope and grace. . . . We urge you to read this book as you consider how you will pass along your faith in today’s rapidly changing world.”

~ Drs. Les and Leslie Parrott, authors of Saving Your Marriage Before It Starts

“If you long to make a lasting difference in the lives of women in the next generation, read A Friend in Me. With raw honesty, poignant illustrations and courageous action steps — all woven within biblical truth — Pamela Havey Lau has written a book that challenges women to be intentional about investing their time, influence, knowledge and friendship in women. Don’t miss this extraordinary book!”

~ Carol Kent, speaker and author of Becoming a Woman of Influence

“Friendship with other women has been a powerful source of grace and sustenance in my life. With this book that is both practical and discipling, I hope friendship — with other women and with God — becomes this for you too.”

~ Katelyn Beaty, managing editor of Christianity Today magazine

About the Author

Pamela Havey Lau is the author of A Friend in Me, Soul Strength and numerous articles for such publications as Christian Scholar’s Review and Christianity Today. A graduate of Liberty University and Colorado State University, she has taught writing at George Fox University and speaks around the country at conferences and retreats.

After her three daughters were born, Lau began teaching writing at private day schools until 2010 when she started her own business, Real Life Real Image, where she writes, edits and speaks. Lau is married to Dr. Brad Lau, a college administrator. The two make their home near Portland, Oregon, with their three daughters.

Keep up with Pamela Havey Lau at www.pamelalau.com, on Facebook (pamela.h.lau) or by following her on Twitter (@pamelahaveylau).

Suggested interview questions

—Why did it take you almost seven years to write your new book, A Friend in Me?

—You say the themes in A Friend in Me have been forming in you for your entire adult life. Can you tell us more about that?

—Why do you think it’s harder for women of the younger generation to create meaningful connections with other women?

—How have social media and technology both helped and hindered intimate friendships?

—How would you define authenticity in a relationship?

—Have you ever had trouble being authentic with the women in your life?

—Tell us what personal tragedy caused you to realize finally how deeply you needed to be in close relationships with other women?

—What would you say is the primary factor that holds women back from truly loving other women?

—What are the five patterns you want women to internalize and practice in their relationships with other women?

—Why are cross-generational relationships so important? What is the biggest hindrance in making them work?

—What are some practical steps women can take to start and form deep friendships?

—As a busy wife and mother, what are some ways you build time into your life to make friendships a priority?

—Many women are wary of being vulnerable with other women because they’ve been burned in the past.  What are ways women can make sure they’re safe havens for others?

—What is your prayer for your readers as they dig into A Friend in Me?

To request a review copy of A Friend in Me or schedule an interview with Pamela Havey Lau, please contact Audra Jennings, audra@litfusegroup.com.



    As a women in my 40’s I have been blessed by a number of older women in the last 10 or 15 years that I can truly call a mentor. Those women that have guided me through conversations, prayer and community to be the best Christian wife, women and mom that I can. They have truly lived out the scripture in Titus 2 that directs older women to help younger women grow in their faith and life. Now that I have been involved in a fantastic church the last eight years and been a part of MOPS I have connected with a number of younger women that I would love to one day be a mentor to. To come along side of them like older women did for me. This book explains the importance of such a relationship and I am so glad I had the opportunity to read it.This book is a prime example of how a friendship between two Christian women should be and I absolutely love that she covers the topic of social media and the danger we often fall into believing that real relationships come as a result of connecting online. While I have made some amazing friends online through blogging and reviewing, nothing beats those relationships I have built in real life. It takes a lot of heart and time to really build relationships that are based on Christ and I am up to the challenge! Relationships between women of any age is hard work and the author emphasizes that throughout the book, but that hard work is so worth it!
    Check out the great videos for each chapter of the book, along with discussion questions, making it perfect for small group studies!

    Written by A Mom After God’s Own Heart on July 5, 2015


    I have always had a heart for mentoring and getting more women of the older and younger generations connected with each other. This obsession started with some teaching by Donna Otto of Homemakers by Choice and her exegesis of Titus 2. To this day it is still a huge desire of my heart to see more Godly older women helping those of the younger generation, and really anyone can fit in those categories. There is always someone younger than you to mentor and older than you to have mentor you. Anyway, I was excited to see this book come up for review because of my passion for the topic. A Friend in Me is a book made to help us learn how to be a safe haven for other women.

    Written by The Crafty Home on July 1, 2015
    Read my full review:https://www.amazon.com/review/R2PX2ADS5TLKVS/ref=cm_cr_rdp_perm


    As I begin this review, I want us to keep in mind that the older women are to teach or train those younger than us how to be godly women. In A Friend in Me, Pam takes a look at what us women can do for each other – it seems there is a chasm in the church today between the older women and the younger, we don’t mingle or if we do it’s merely superficial. How are the younger ladies to learn if we don’t do more than scratch the surface? Pam gives readers ideas of how to really learn from one another, in some ways I’m the older woman, I can teach the younger ones how to have a godly marriage and refrain from making the mistakes I did but on the other hand I’m the younger woman too, navigating the roads of widowhood with young children.

    Written by Growing for Christ on July 1, 2015
    Read my full review:https://www.amazon.com/review/R2VWQ08IEHKM1W/ref=cm_cr_rdp_perm


    This review is for the book A Friend in Me by Pamela Havey Lau. This is not the first book on friendship I have read this year, but it was one of my favorites. I loved the writing style of Lau, and I loved her honesty. I loved reading the perspectives of other ladies that Lau was able to incorporate into the book.

    This book is filled with ideas on how to be a good friend, how to find good friends, mentoring, and she describes every topic with a variety of scripture background. The things in this book are things you can begin putting into action in your life. I hope that I can apply many of these things to be a better friend to my friends, and hopefully be a mentor or find a mentor one day. Now I realize the importance of these things.

    I highly recommend for all women to read this book.

    Written by The Talbert Report on June 28, 2015
    Read my full review:https://www.amazon.com/review/RIBT7VOTX4JSN/ref=cm_cr_rdp_perm


    This book really talks about what I feel the Titus 2 woman is all about, having the older woman be a strength and support to the younger woman in their lives. I know that in my person life I have benefited from the wisdom of those who are further along in life’s journey. I love how this book gives practically and very applicable advice for ways the more seasoned women can mentor those younger in such a way that is mutually beneficial. I love how this book longs to help us overcome the generation gaps and really minister to each other. I received a copy of this book in exchange for my honest opinion.

    Written by Perfect Beginnings on June 28, 2015


    I have lamented to my husband before that I’m not seeing older women mentoring to younger ones in churches. It seems to be something that has fallen away. There is no one to teach the new married brides how to keep their houses or offering bits of parenting advice. As I’m aging(or my children are at least) I find that I now have women coming to me with questions about parenting, diapering, etc. I love that they think I’m a wealth of information but feel so inadequate sometimes. I had my mother for advice but that’s about it. No one that I could ask questions of or who would offer bits of advice.

    This is a wonderful book that offers wisdom and advice on how to be a mentor and be a friend to women not in your generation. I think women both old and young should read this book.

    Written by For Him and My Family on June 26, 2015


    I’ve been craving more connections with Christian women in my life, so I was eager to review this book. While it is mainly targeted at the older generation of women, this book holds many tips for women of all ages to help increase their connections.

    Whether you have many Christian women to share your soul with, or none, this book gives realistic tips and examples of ways both generations of women can help each other connect. If you are of the younger crowd, Pamela explains the signals that can turn the older women off from being close with us. If you are of the older generation, she gives ways to really get us younger women to open up to you.

    If you are craving new connections, or simply want to deepen the ones you are already a part of, this book is a great read for you.

    Written by The Librarian’s Bookshelf on June 25, 2015

  • We all like to have friends. Sometimes, we need more than a friend. Someone who we can confide in, sharing something that we wouldn’t share with just anybody. I know I always connected with older women. I think it’s because I felt intimidated by women my age because I felt there was always this silent competition. Now, as I am getting older, I feel the need to befriend the younger generation. I read a book recently that gives great insight on befriending younger women and becoming their ‘safe haven’.The chapter that really spoke to me most was about women contemplating abortion. The experience shared in the book showed how genuine compassion for someone facing this decision helped her to make the best decision for the baby (and herself). We are often too quick to just tell others what they should do. Instead we should be showing that we care about a person, not pointing our fingers at them.

    This book, which I share with you below, has also show me some ways I can befriend my teenage daughter. She is growing up and I need to quit pointing my finger at her and show her just how much I really care about her.

    I received this book via Litfuse Publishing in exchange for my honest review.

    Written by Tami Qualls on June 25, 2015


    A Friend In Me examines the rewards of developing friendships with women from different generations in the context of an informal Christian mentoring relationship!

    If you are under forty, Pamela encourages you to seek out the experience of a wise woman who is growing in Christ to help mentor and guide you through life.

    If you are over forty, Pamela encourages you to grow in your capacity to be a safe haven that young women can turn to when they need friendship, guidance and counsel.

    What I like most about A Friend In Me are the personal stories that the author shares and the call for authenticity in relationships.

    A Friend In Me is a highly relevant book on mentoring that will particularly be of interest to those involved in women’s ministry!

    Written by Create With Joy on June 24, 2015
    Read my full review:https://www.amazon.com/review/R2BDWQTF0990MC/ref=cm_cr_rdp_perm


    Specifically, the book aims to bridge a gap between generations. I’ve been so fortunate to have strong, brave women in my support group. A Friend in Me urged me to consider how I’ve repaid that debt. Have I offered support and resources to the new teachers in my school building? Have I given a smile of encouragement to those tired moms at the playground? A Friend in Me is a great reminder of how important it is to reach out to others, especially women who are younger.

    Written by Savings in Seconds on June 24, 2015


    Overall, this book has some great conversations and discussion pieces between young women and older women who want to foster deeper relationships. I think it has a lot of sound advice and could be great for those looking to have mentor relationships.

    Written by www.runningthroughthestorms.com on June 24, 2015
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    The book is really written for women over 40, and seeing as how I have a few years yet, and my four small children, it feels a bit like it isn’t for me. Which is not to say there aren’t plenty of things I could glean from it! How do you relate to other women in a way that creates an open atmosphere? How can women’s relationships be a safe haven for each other rather than a feeling of judgement or always having to show perfection?

    It’s in being humble, willing to be vulnerable, and saying “me too” when someone else shares something. Or perhaps, being willing to be the first one to share. Not always easy!

    Written by Welcome to Married Life on June 24, 2015


    Have you ever longed to mentor the younger generation of women? Now, more than ever, it’s essential. With divorce at an all time high, with believers and unbelievers, we are just too busy with our own lives. Author Pamela Havey Lau has written a book specifically for women, dealing with women’s issues upon finishing this book I feel certain the reader will be ready to either be a mentor or a mentee. Remember, it is up to us to seek out who we need. Remember, we cannot give comfort to others unless we have been comforted first.
    The topics in this book vary with each chapter. You will find some topics like: Safe Havens, The Power of Comfort, Acting with Understanding… This book was originally written for young women (June 1, 2015)
    Author Pamela Havey Lau has done her research on the topics in this book. The book holds knowledge, but is simple enough for all women to understand and read. The reader will learn much from reading the book. I recommend this book to women who want to be either a mentor or mentee.

    Reader Beware: There is a chapter on sex.

    *I must admit….I basically skimmed the book*

    Written by New Horizon Reviews on June 24, 2015
    Read my full review:https://www.amazon.com/review/R1ANWEDP4VQJIK/ref=cm_cr_rdp_perm


    Being a friend is hard to do. It’s hard to know when to speak and when to be silent. It’s hard to know when to correct someone’s thinking and when to just nod and hope she comes to the right conclusion on her own. It’s hard to hear heartbreak spilling out onto the table across from you and not want to jump in with solutions or lofty platitudes.
    As an adult, I feel like it’s harder to navigate the word of friendships than it was as a child or teen. Perhaps it’s because we’re so often running in different directions. Or perhaps it’s because we already feel so stressed with our own lives that we have little room to pour into others. Whatever the reason, I know that friendship is important to God and it is often the vehicle that helps us to grow spiritually…

    Written by Growing Kids Ministry on June 24, 2015
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    First off, I’m reading and reviewing (and enjoying) this book as one of The Next Generation.
    (No, not the Star Trek fandom, the young Christians growing up today.)

    And I have to say, I love the ideas behind this book and I want to be a part of putting these concepts into practice.

    The longing for somebody to listen to us without getting upset or thinking they need to be our savior, to share their life lessons without being heavy handed or negative and to give the precious gift of their time and affection- I think those are universal desires.

    Some say it’s mentoring, some say it’s making disciples, some just call it friendship, whatever word you use it all comes down to intentional investment in another’s life.

    Written by Found a Christian by His Grace on June 24, 2015
    Read my full review: http://www.amazon.com/gp/customer-reviews/RXNMITSNCOZIN/ref=cm_cr_pr_rvw_ttl?ie=UTF8&ASIN=1434708640


    There have only been a few times when I’ve read a book and I’ve felt like I was sitting right next to the author having a cup of tea…and now I’m adding this book, A Friend in Me by Pamela Havey Lau to that list.

    Written by Our Perfectly Imperfect Life! on June 24, 2015
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    I was anticipating a book with steps to creating lasting friendships with women who were not in my age group. But the book was more about the thoughts on WHY women should have friendships with people who can mentor them and encouraging older women to find someone to mentor. The stories interspersed throughout the book helped move the chapters along, but for me it wasn’t as helpful as I’d hoped. There will be women who will benefit from thinking about the thoughts presented in this book so I do think it has a place, it just wasn’t for me.

    Written by Book Reviews by Tima on June 23, 2015
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    I think this is a hugely important message, and I’m glad it is getting out there.

    But I struggled with this book. And that probably proves how much I needed to be reading it. I don’t know.

    There were parts that really resonated with me. The chapter on grief (The Power of Comfort), for instance. Or the chapter on compassion.

    Written by Footprints in the Butter on June 23, 2015


    The subtitle of this book caught my attention immediately: “How To Be a Safe Haven For Other Women.” I have been blessed with those who have been safe havens for me, and my desire as a sister, teacher, and friend myself is to develop relationships that would foster safety and closeness. I was hoping that this book would be helpful in encouraging me or showing me other ways to open doors with the women in my life.

    My very favorite quote came from Chapter Four: “Women who are comforted can comfort others.” Let us each seek to look to God for His comfort, embrace those He has placed around us for community, and in turn be bastions of safety and hope for those in our lives.

    Written by ReviewsByErin on June 23, 2015
    Read my full review: http://www.amazon.com/review/R2ULVW4X4G58E8


    So, once again, I did skim the book, but there’s some good advice in here, even if I didn’t overly connect with it at this stage of my life. There’s also things I didn’t agree with, so take what you can from it if you’re a lady that has encouragement potential for younger women. While it seems to fit more for older ladies, there’s still good advice for younger ladies working with teens. It’ll probably be one I’ll revisit down the road a bit.

    Written by Bluerose’s Heart on June 22, 2015
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    A Friend In Me is very well-written and compelling. If you’re longing for more connection with women in your life, or if you see the need in the church community for more connection, it’s an excellent book to read! We are not meant to be self-sustaining and completely independent. God created us to be in relationship with Him, and with those around us. That can’t happen if we’re putting on our “I can handle it” face and don’t let ourselves be vulnerable and real. So pick up a copy of A Friend In Me and let Pam inspire you to connect more.

    Written by ElCloud Homeschool on June 22, 2015


    It is obvious that Pamela has a passion for bringing older women and younger women together in relationship. A Friend In Me addresses and tackles many of the issues that stand in the way of strong Christlike relationships within multiple generations. Basically, the older generations feel that they can’t relate with the younger, and vice versa. However, if we can get past this and take the time to LEARN about each other, we can do a lot to further the kingdom. This is a great read for anyone who is involved in women’s ministry… it’s a call for us to have a different, Christ-centered, newer mindset for reaching younger women for Christ.

    Written by Grow Where You’re Planted on June 21, 2015
    Read my full review: http://www.amazon.com/review/R1DJ2V09DIZM8W


    This book is about friendships between women. This book really focused on older women mentoring younger women, especially in the church.

    The author has some good thoughts about relationships between women. She discusses tone of voice, to be open with other women, and not to be so judgmental. She shares that younger women are looking for older women to mentor them and be there for them.

    Although this was a good book, I was a little disappointed that it was pretty much all about the relationship of mentoring between older and younger women. I also thought she was slightly judgmental about the older women, making them feel responsible if the mentoring relationship doesn’t go well.

    Written by Julie – More of Him on June 20, 2015
    Read my full review:http://www.amazon.com/review/RXFW0V4IITPWU/ref=cm_cr_rdp_perm?ie=UTF8&ASIN=1434708640


    This book is essential for women who follow Christ and wish to make a difference…This is not a work book. It’s a heart book that can make a difference to the reader and anyone the reader encounters.

    Written by Beauty in Everyday on June 20, 2015
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    Do you have that women in your life that you know you can turn to for advice and input on all that life throws your way? Those women who have been there, done that and lived to tell about it. The women who have lived and learned and gained wisdom from their experience?

    I am lucky enough to have three such women in my life- my mom and my ‘second mom’ (my mom’s best friend) and my mother in law. These women have of course been mother figures to me, but as I have grown up, they have also become great friends to me as well. I know that I can rely on them to be there to offer advice and support when I need it, and I know that they’ve been through it all and that their wisdom truly counts for something. There are many, many times when I go to my mom with the silliest of questions, because I tru

    Written by A Modern Day Fairy Tale on June 20, 2015

  • This is an excellent book. In A Friend Like Me, Pam Lau lays out the need and importance for mentors. She sets out practical steps to become a woman that younger women can feel safe and confide in. She speaks to the importance on leaning on God for our own support, valuing vulnerability and honesty, modeling compassion, and not allowing any topic to become taboo.

    Written by Hope N. Griffin on June 19, 2015
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    I really enjoyed Pamela Lavey Lau’s book, A Friend In Me as it is thought-provoking and overall a guide for creating and maintaining a relationship as a mentor to a younger woman. Growing up is difficult and is even more so when you feel alone, meaning you have no one you feel that you can go to with anything on your heart and mind. This book addresses the concept of being a safe haven for women younger than you whom need guidance and someone they can talk with as needed.

    Written by Moments on June 19, 2015
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    Heartbreak, hope, forgiveness and restoration are all part of Pamela Havey Lau’s new book, A Friend in Me: How to be A Safe Haven for Other Women. But the most important thread found through the stories and pearls of wisdom for women shared in Lau’s book is this: the value of women—young and old—connecting with each other and sharing their life experience in a way that provides support, relief and hope for those who have not yet reached certain stages in life.

    “The longing for a mentor, for someone who has gone on the journey before you and stops, or at least slows down, and takes the time to walk alongside of you, is a rare thing. I think Pam is that kind of person…”

    Written by God is Love on June 18, 2015
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  • A Friend in Me teaches us how not only to build relationships with other women but how to cross that gap. For myself, I value my relationships with my older co-workers. When I need advice they are the first people I will go to and lay it all out for. They not always agree or understand my choices but they can provide me feedback and advice. This advice has been learned from being there and already doing it. This is why these relationships are so important to young women. We can learn and grow from these relationships, while realizing no matter what the age gap we are all the same and experiencing the same things. My favourite part of the book focuses on the tone of our voices, which I know I am guilty of. Are we relaying what we truly feel in the tone of our voice? How would this make you feel if someone spoke to you like this? Pamela provides plenty of real experiences to get her point across as well as provide opportunity for growth and education. This is a great resource for all women to come back to over and over again.

    Written by Working Mommy Journal on June 18, 2015


    It is a great book for anyone to read. She talks about how we should all have an older friend who can be our mentor to helps us through certain struggles in life. Yes, we have God who helps us, but he also want’s us to come together and help each other. Life can be extremely hard without friends. Lau wonderfully explains in her book about how we should also be friends/mentors for people younger then our own age. She describes how we should go about talking and listening to them in those certain areas they are having issues with. She has written some great information in this book. If this is what you feel you are needing, then hurry up and grab it! It is worth the read.

    Written by Enchanted Excurse on June 18, 2015
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    Lau takes this book beyond just a book about friendship. But, she really incorporates principles about relationships and the gospel that can apply to marriage, parenting, and friendships. All sorts of community. Definitely refreshing and not all shallow.

    Written by Kcreatives on June 17, 2015
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    I enjoyed this thoughtful yet practical book that focused on how mature women can be supportive friends and mentors to the younger women in their lives. Ms. Au does a great job in providing anecdotes and then Biblical stories to show us how we can be helpers and how we can provide a safe haven for women who are struggling. I particularly liked the chapter on sexuality and felt it provided a lot of good info on how not to be judgmental or closed to those who might have issues and/or experiences that aren’t in our own experience. Thank you for my review copy!

    Written by Beth’s Book-Nook on June 17, 2015


    What I enjoyed most about this book was the authenticity of Pamela’s writing. This is a book that comes from experience, good and bad and sad all rolled into one story. It’s the story of how these friendships and relationships that we share with younger and older women can serve as reaffirming reminders of the gospel in our lives as well as their lives.

    A Friend in Me shares practical life experience on how to make time with others more impactful. Lau shares her heart when it comes to mentoring those younger and also how it is important to seek out a mentor in your own life. This is a book that does not back down from difficult topics. Lau is blunt and honest about questions we should ask and conversations that we should have.

    Written by Slow It Down on June 17, 2015


    I really enjoyed this book. I am an older woman and enjoy being around my younger friends. It wasn’t always easy, but I was on the other side too. This book makes sense and offers gentle helps on how to be the friend and mentor God wants you to be. So, if you are a woman seeking to be the best friend you can be, this book is for you.

    Written by Books and such on June 16, 2015
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    Some say loneliness is an inevitable part of living in a sin-drenched world, and there is a measure of truth in that. On the other hand, Christians should be there for the lonely, for those who are struggling and need someone to hear their hearts. This should be especially true in the church where no one should be living ‘uncomforted under the pressure of sickness, loneliness, and poverty,’ and ideally we would have time and energy to reach out to everyone around us.

    Of course that is easy to say, but doing so wisely and well is a different matter. It involves everything from being careful about our use of time to learning how to love others. Fundamentally, it involves learning how to be a safe place for others, and this is what Pamela Havey Lau writes about in her book A Friend in Me.

    Written by Tea Time with Annie Kate on June 16, 2015
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    Have you ever read a book and felt as if you were seated across from the author in a café, having a heart-to-heart chat over a steaming latte? That’s exactly the warm feeling A Friend in Me by Pamela Havey Lau gave me.
    Pamela writes with deep sincerity and compassion. She offers gentle guidance, much-needed reminders, and a kind challenge to rethink some attitudes and assumptions.
    This book presents friendship in a light I never considered. Reading it encouraged me to pursue deeper relationships, rather than refusing to be vulnerable and staying at a shallow level. This would be a wonderful book to read with a friend or a women’s group. A Friend in Me offered me a haven at a time I needed it, and it’s one I’ll return to. I truly believe there is something in this book for every woman.

    Written by On Another Note on June 15, 2015
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    “Past writers and current researched have noted that our spiritual health is dependent on intergenerational relationships. When we relate to someone who is older, we see our lives through a long historical perspective of life as opposed to relying solely on our own experiences.” (p. 93)

    This statement is one of the building blocks upon which the entire premise of this book rests. Pamela Lau encourages women to seek God, and all of the means available to us to reach emotional and spiritual health so that we can be a safe place for those coming behind us. God built us to be in relationship, and He wants us to have life-giving relationships that bring us closer to Him so that we may bring others. If all of us are taking a close look at areas of our life upon which relationships are built such as comfort, understanding, forgiveness, compassion…and we seek God to be whole in those areas, we can then turn to others and share our story in ways that will help them become whole and find healing.

    Truly, this book gives us a picture of what friendship can and should look like among sisters in Christ. The next to the last chapter is entitled “Building Close Friendships and Working Hard”. It is hard work to get past the life-circumstances that the enemy uses to keep us from being the hands and feet of Jesus to those coming behind us. But it is vital that we do that hard work! Lau uses many examples from Scripture to illustrate these truths, and she encourages readers to go to God and wrestle with Him to gain the wisdom and understanding we lack.

    This is truly a God-given message for such a time as this in my own life. I am certain it will be for many readers that come to these pages. Thank you Pamela Lau for writing such a transparent, honest book!!

    Written by Window To My World on June 15, 2015
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    I loved this book on so many levels. It is underlined and marked with notes all over the pages. The author asks a great question. Does my life tell other women that they have a friend in me and that they are deeply loved by Almighty God? The most important thing we can tell those younger is is that we don’t have it all together. To share our story~ or failures and successes. Pamela shares that many women still live with wounds and are recovering from the hard knocks of life. Life is littered with hardships. Amen and amen! That we need to receive comfort before we can comfort others. Amen and amen! That we need to forgive so we can be forgiven. That we need to forgive our own selves. This book encourages women to become a safe place for other women.
    I loved this book and I believe that all ladies of all ages need to read it. This is a book for such a time as this. Wow!!! Wow!!! and Wow!!!

    Written by Farming On Faith on June 11, 2015
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  • I enjoyed reading this great resource for women about our need for relationships that have meaning and how to mentor. While a lot of it is geared towards older women and their learning how to connect with the young women in their families and at church, I really enjoyed the personal stories that were shared (though some of them are heartbreaking!). She also does a fabulous job of tackling the issues that younger women face and how they aren’t all that different from what older women have gone through or are still going through.
    This book is an excellent resource!
    I received this book from Litfuse in exchange for my honest review.

    Written by Inklings and Notions on June 10, 2015
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    This is a new book which gives advice to women on how to develop encouraging and beneficial friendships with other women.
    Being a friend is hard to do. It’s hard to know when to speak and when to be silent. It’s hard to know when to correct someone’s thinking and when to just nod and hope she comes to the right conclusion on her own.
    I expected much of this book since I have for years, as we all struggle with understanding friendships. However this book did not fulfill my personal needs. She talks about how we should all have an older friend who can be our mentor to helps us through certain struggles in life.. I was entirely open to learning from her book but came away with less than I expected to glean from the chapters.
    That said, I am sure that this book will still help most readers. I just have had more opportunities to discuss relationships and such with family and friends and we’ve kind of gotten the information presented in the book on our own. Of course the BIBLE helps. 😉

    As a last note, I also looked up the author and found that I personally don’t agree with certain opinions and stances she takes on current issues.

    **I was provided a copy of this book for my honest review and opinion. All of the opinions here are my own.

    Written by wisdom in books on June 9, 2015
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    I loved this book, Pamela’s message really spoke to me…I highlighted sentence after sentence.
    More than ever younger women need older women to speak truth into their lives. Pamela encourages women to befriend women who are a few years younger than themselves. She gives her readers helpful advice on how to help younger women live a Godly life.
    Our culture is sending out confusing, unbiblical messages to the world making it extremely difficult for the younger generation to discern right from wrong. God created us to live in community not in isolation. Without community life becomes difficult–we have no one to give advice to us, we have no one to help us when we fall, and we have no one to speak truth to us.
    Great read! Well written, easy to read. Wonderful resource!

    Written by Four Seasons of Blessings on June 9, 2015
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