Secrets by Jonathan Daugherty

A true story of restoration and recovery, Secrets is the account of Jonathan Daugherty’s struggle with sex addiction and how, with God’s help, he overcame it. His secret kept him from contentment, peace, and the possibility of being known and loved for who he truly is. Addiction doesn’t have the final say over Jonathan’s life or in his marriage. The God who finds the lost, heals the sick, and brings life from death has the last, victorious word.


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Secrets: A True Story of Addiction, Infidelity, and Second Chances (New Growth Press, June 2017)

Everyone has a secret or two, a part of their life they would rather not share with the rest of the world.

But for Jonathan Daugherty, his secret was so life-altering and relationship-ending that he fought to keep it hidden at all costs. And it did cost him. His secret kept him from contentment, peace, and the possibility of being known and loved for who he truly is. That’s what any secret addiction can do—but in particular a sex addiction.

After his wife finally discovered his secret, their marriage appeared to be over. In Secrets, Jonathan honestly and courageously shares his story of addiction to pornography and how he lost everything to it.

But that’s not how the story ends. While Jonathan struggled, someone else was at work—his heavenly Father. At the lowest possible moment of his life, God stepped in and brought him hope and healing. This is a story of both loss and redemption that gives hope to anyone who has ever experienced the power and struggle of addiction and its life-destroying effects.

Addiction doesn’t have the final say over Jonathan’s life or in his marriage. The God who finds the lost, heals the sick, and brings life from death has the last, victorious word.

—A courageous, honest and open account of life as a sex addict and how sex addiction destroys marriages.
—A life-affirming and personal story of recovery and redemption that will inspire readers.
—Offers hope to all who struggle with pornography and sex addiction.
—Each chapter includes a “Living in the Light” section designed to equip and help readers find freedom from addiction.
—Suitable as a study for support groups of addicts and those who care about them.

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Jonathan Daugherty

{More About Jonathan Daugherty}

Jonathan Daugherty is the founder of Be Broken Ministries, and founder of Gateway to Freedom workshop for men. He also hosts the weekly radio broadcast, Pure Sex Radio, and is in demand nationally as a speaker on sexual purity and men s issues. He has appeared on multiple radio and television media, both local and national. He has authored “Grace-Based Recovery,” “The 4 Pillars of Purity,” and other works. Jonathan lives with his wife and three children in San Antonio, Texas.

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    Daughtery’s writing style is personable and intimate and even humorous in places. In one word, he is: genuine. His heart for his restoration and God’s story of grace and redemption and healing shine through on every page.

    Written by Mother of Three on August 14, 2017


    The narrative is well written in an honest, open, and straightforward way. There’s nothing explicit or graphic; rather, a sharing of feelings and coping mechanisms in relationships through the years, cultivating in the moment when he confessed his brokenness. Secrets is ultimately redemptive and I was glad to read about the Be Broken Ministries that he founded.

    Written by The Power of Words on August 4, 2017


    What made his insights into the nature of pornography especially compelling was that he was able to frame them within a greater context of what makes a relationship healthy — because it’s in knowing this that unhealthy patterns can be unidentified.

    Thankfully, as Jonathan’s own story reveals, there is hope for addicts. There’s grace and the potential for redemption for those who dare to claim it.

    Written by Katherine Scott Jones on August 4, 2017


    This book was very encouraging, inspiring and compelling to read.

    Written by Feeling in Red on August 4, 2017


    I know this is based on true events, but I just could not relate to the “secrets” and I had a hard time getting into this. I have to say I am not normally a fan of memoirs, so it may be more of a “It is me, not you” type of thing. Overall, this was just not for me.

    Written by Simply Kelina on August 3, 2017


    This is a great book about the struggles of keeping a secret and the terrible cost it comes to ones personal and spiritual life. I enjoyed this candid read as the author is very open about his struggles and how they almost destroyed his marriage and his ministry.

    Written by The Perfect beginning on August 2, 2017


    If I had to sum up Jonathon Daugherty’s Secrets in only one word, I’d choose, “courageous”. Daugherty offers an unapologetic view into his own personal struggle with sexual addictions.

    Written by Becky J Miller on August 1, 2017


    While I think this book is quite earnest and written with great intentions, it just didn’t seem powerful enough to tackle the weighty subjects it addresses. It is an interesting read and as a testimonial it might have some benefit but I just kept waiting to be taken to the dark places.

    Written by A Day of Small Things on August 1, 2017


    I expected to struggle through this book. Instead I was surprised to find this a relatively easy book to read, and I was pulling for Jonathan. And for his wife. There is no doubt that he has an addiction and that he makes a lot of mistakes, but the descriptions are not graphic. Of course, it helped a lot that the description of the book told me this was a story of recovery and redemption. I’m not sure I would have been able to get through it if I didn’t know this book offers hope — and not just to those who struggle, but to those who know people who struggle.

    Written by Footprints in the Butter on July 30, 2017


    Secrets is an interesting and encouraging read. Not everyone looking at pornography will go on to actual adultery as Daughtery did, but pornography itself is adultery and increases the chances of an actual affair.

    Written by Thoughts of a Sojourner on July 30, 2017


    Daugherty has written a book that has the potential to help others with this type of addiction.

    Written by The Mary Book Reader on July 28, 2017


    I chose to review this book because sexual addiction ended 20+ years of marriage in my life. I wanted to read this book and rip it to shreds, because I simply couldn’t believe a man could be healed from this terrible addiction. So, Secrets proved to be as healing to me as it is certain to be to anyone fighting this particular battle. It was as if God pulled back the curtain to show me that healing is possible and what the end-result can look like when someone chooses to walk the path toward healing and deliverance.

    Written by Window To My World on July 27, 2017


    Proverbs 6:27 describes sexual immorality as taking fire into our laps, and it’s just one of the many sins we need to keep guard against. Secrets not only tells of the sexual addiction that the author went through, but it also tells of how he was able to overcome it. This book shows how God’s grace and mercy can be extended to anyone, regardless of past behavior. Secrets is a personal account of an addiction, and a good resource to anyone who wants to know how they can start the recovery process with the help of God.

    Written by Heck Of A Bunch on July 27, 2017


    What I liked best about the book is Daugherty is quick to accept blame. He is descriptive in regards to the spiraling downfall of the addiction. He explains how indulging in one thing led to a second thing, and the second thing led to a third, and so forth.

    Written by A Well-Watered Garden on July 25, 2017


    Secrets reads like a cross between a conversation and a devotional. I felt just like we were sitting together and he was telling me how his brokenness overtook his life. But just at the end of each profound memory, he gave me hope in showing me why his feelings were wrong and how living without secrets can be accomplished.

    This is a book I think everyone can find useful, if they’re willing to look. I know I’ll be sharing it with my family (so they can help me to move past my past) and with my pastor (for others who may need this as well.).

    Written by Hott Books on July 25, 2017


    While it is not super explicit or out there on the raw level, the topic and true story might be super uncomfortable for the reader.

    Written by Cassandra M’s Place on July 24, 2017


    This book speaks of bravery, commitment, addiction, and overcoming your past. I wasn’t sure what to expect of it, but I found it to be moving, bare, and honest. It’s transparent and eye-opening. I loved how open the book was and that it helped me view things differently. While the book covers sexual addiction, it could help anyone with addictions or those that love an addict as well. I highly recommend it.

    Written by This Chattanooga Mommy Saves on July 23, 2017


    I admire the author for his openness about his sexual addiction, not an easy story to tell but I believe his confession will help others that are battling addiction whatever it may be. It helped me to realize no one has the right to judge anyone because of the sin in their life. We all are guilty of sin and though it may not seem as “bad” as others God still loves each of us and desires to set us free.

    Written by Deco My Heart on July 23, 2017