Tying the Knot by Rob Green

If you’re making the walk down the aisle soon, don’t focus your anxious energy on the actual wedding day. Take a page from Tying the Knot by Rob Green. Tying the Knot offers soon-to-be-married couples a practical vision of Christ-centered marriage that is realistic, hopeful, and actionable. This nine-session study guides couples through issues like conflict, expectations, communication, finances, and intimacy, showing how each can be successfully resolved with Christ at the center of the marriage.


{More about Tying the Knot}

Tying The Knot: A Premarital Guide to a Strong and Lasting Marriage (New Growth Press, February 2016)

Advised by both tellers of fairy tales and harbingers of doom, many engaged couples simply don’t know what to expect from marriage, so they focus their anxious energies on the wedding day.

Rob Green, a pastor, counselor, and veteran of many premarital counseling sessions, shares that the joy, fun, companionship, and love couples hope for before marriage are not only possible, they are actually God’s plan for marriage. But none of these wonderful things happen automatically when you tie the knot. A strong and satisfying marriage must be intentionally built on Jesus.

Tying the Knot offers soon-to-be-married couples a practical vision of Christ-centered marriage that is realistic, hopeful, and actionable. This nine-session study guides couples through issues like conflict, expectations, communication, finances, and intimacy, showing how each can be successfully resolved with Christ at the center of the marriage.

Knowing the stresses and needs of a couple in their season of engagement, Green has helpfully designed the study to require a manageable (and healthy) 60 minutes of at-home work per session, with questions and exercises to build communication and intimacy at the end of each chapter. Tying the Knot also includes an appendix for mentors, making it easy for a married couple, lay leader, or counselor to lead an engaged couple through the book.

Field-tested and recommended by multiple counselors in a thriving counseling practice, Tying the Knot has already guided many couples into a stronger and more joyful union. Let this nine-week premarriage study reorient your life and marriage around Christ, so you both will experience all the blessings of marriage as God designed it.

—Presents a day-to-day vision of Christ-centered marriage that is realistic, hopeful, and practical
—Demonstrates clearly—in just nine chapters or sessions—how issues like conflict, expectations, communication, finances, and intimacy can only be successfully and satisfyingly approached with Christ at the center of a marriage
—Field tested and recommended by multiple counselors in a thriving counseling practice
—Highly practical and accessible for couples, requires about 60 minutes of weekly at-home work
—Includes chapter-by-chapter exercises and questions for couples to do separately and together to build communication and intimacy
—Includes an appendix for mentors to guide couples through the book

Learn more and purchase a copy.

Rob Green

{More About Rob Green}

Rob Green, MDiv, PhD, is the Pastor of Counseling and Seminary Ministries at Faith Church (Lafayette, IN), as well as an instructor and counselor at Faith Biblical Counseling Ministries, Biblical Counseling Coalition Board member, and author of counseling minibooks. He and his wife Stephanie have three children.

Find out more about Rob at http://stores.newgrowthpress.com.

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Don’t just plan for your wedding — plan for your marriage

Pastor and counselor offers practical advice for couples on putting Christ at the center of their marriage

1/29/2016 || Seattle: Advised by both tellers of fairy tales and harbingers of doom, many engaged couples don’t know what to expect from marriage. They may believe God created the institution, but many of the unions around them exhibit frustration or end in heartache. Other couples focus their energies on planning the perfect wedding day instead of preparing a relational foundation on which their lives together can be built.

Rob Green, a pastor and veteran pre-marital counselor, provides young couples with a blueprint to follow in his new book, Tying the Knot: A Premarital Guide to a Strong and Lasting Marriage (New Growth Press/February 1, 2016/ISBN: 978-1942572596/ $17.99). Green assures couples the joy, fun and love they hope for is not wishful, romantic thinking; it’s God’s plan for marriage. It’s also within reach for every couple willing to do the work needed to center their relationship on Jesus intentionally.

For Green, a person’s walk with the Lord and their marriage are inseparable. “There are many moments in marriage where our commitment to Christ is challenged,” he shares. “What happens when one spouse wants to be intimate and the other doesn’t? When one spouse says something mean to the other? Tens of thousands of these scenarios will occur in 50 years of a relationship. How one responds to them will be rooted in the strength of their walk with Christ.”

Tying the Knot offers soon-to-be-married couples a practical vision of what a Christ-centered marriage looks like, with advice that is realistic, hopeful and actionable. The nine-session study guides couples through issues such as conflict, expectations, communication, finances and intimacy, showing how every challenge can be resolved successfully through making Christ the priority in their life and relationship. “I tell couples you were not created to be each other’s savior,” Green reveals. “You were designed to be a spouse because the job of savior has already been filled. When couples live for Jesus, they will live obediently to the Word, focused on prayer, dedicated to service and willing to give of themselves for the betterment of others.”

Knowing the stresses and needs of a couple during their season of engagement, Green has designed the study to require a manageable 60-90 minutes of at-home work per session, with questions and exercises to build communication and intimacy at the end of each chapter. Tying the Knot also includes an appendix for mentors, making it easy for a seasoned married couple, lay leader or counselor to lead an engaged couple through the book.  

Green hopes Tying the Knot will put couples on the path to becoming the godly examples young people need to cut through the cynicism in our culture toward marriage. Readers of the book will find the resources they need to reorient their life and relationship, making it possible for them to experience all the blessings of this institution as God designed it.

Learn more about Tying the Knot and Rob Green at www.newgrowthpress.com

Advance Praise

“From now on, this is the book I will recommend for premarital and marital counseling.” —Bob Kellemen, author of Gospel-Centered Counseling and Gospel Conversations

Tying the Knot is a great book for those considering marriage. The topics are highly relevant and the homework will help any counselor or couple to put these crucial lessons into practice.” —Garrett Higbee, Executive Director of Biblical Soul Care and the Biblical Counseling Coalition

About the Author

Rob Green has been the pastor of counseling and seminary ministries at Faith Church in Lafayette, Ind., since 2005. His responsibilities there include oversight of the Faith Biblical Counseling Ministry and teaching New Testament at the Faith Bible Seminary. Green wasn’t always a pastor; he has a B.S. in engineering physics from Ohio State University and after college wrote computer programs to process credit cards. After feeling a call to the ministry he entered seminary, eventually earning a M.Div. and a Ph.D. from Baptist Bible Seminary.

Green also serves on the council board of the Biblical Counseling Coalition and has authored a number of counseling mini books. He and his wife, Stephanie, have three children: Joseph, Samuel and Mackenzie. The family makes their home in Indiana.

Learn more about Rob Green’s ministry work at blogs.faithlafayette.org/counseling.

Suggested interview questions

—You have been counseling married couples for years. What finally prompted you to put pen to paper and write Tying the Knot?

—One chapter is written specifically to mentors. How is this book also designed to be used by pastors, mentors or counselors?

—What sets Tying the Knot apart from other pre-marriage books on the market?

—You write that successful marriages are “Christ-centered.” What does a Christ-centered marriage look like?

—How closely is our walk with God tied to the quality of our relationship with our spouse?

—Many brides and grooms spend more time planning their wedding day than planning for their marriage. What marriage plans should an engaged couple make before their big day?

—In your counseling experience, what is the number-one issue that trips up young couples? How do you address it in Tying the Knot?

—Why do you write so candidly about intimacy? That is a subject most people do not like to discuss.

—What was the biggest lesson you and your wife learned during the early years of your relationship?

—A lot of young people are cynical about marriage. What would you say to convince them it is still one of God’s greatest institutions?

—When it comes to roles in marriage, what are some of the non-negotiables, and what is up for debate?

—How is your chapter on finances different than the classic financial counsel?

—Why do some couples struggle with problem-solving?

—How important is a church community in the life of a young couple?

—If a couple has been dating for a while and are starting to wonder whether or not they should get married, what are the top three things they should consider before picking out the rings?

—Each chapter ends with exercises and questions for the couple to answer separately and together. What is the goal of these practical exercises? Could a couple who is already married benefit from reading Tying the Knot?

—You cover eight key topics, including love, conflict, expectations, communication, finances and intimacy in Tying the Knot, but if you had to give just one piece of advice to engaged couples, what would it be?

To request a review copy of Tying the Knot, to schedule an interview with Rob Green or to find out more information, please contact Audra Jennings, audra@litfusegroup.com.


“Rob Green has given us a practical, biblical, and Jesus-focused premarital book to use with couples preparing for marriage. If marriage according to Ephesians 5:32 is really designed to put the love of Jesus and his bride (the church) on display, then it stands to reason that we should be talking about Jesus from the very beginning with couples who are preparing for marriage. Rob addresses all the critical areas that need to be covered but does it in a way that keeps coming back to Jesus. For years we’ve adapted existing material and always felt like something was missing. It wasn’t something; it was Someone, and Tying the Knot puts that Someone back where he’s supposed to be—at the center of marriage. There’s no better way to help a couple get started right in marriage than to help them see Jesus at the center of it all.” —Pastor Brad Bigney, Grace Fellowship Church, Florence, KY; ACBC certified counselor; conference speaker; author ofGospel Treason: Betraying the Gospel with Hidden Idols

“One of the most neglected areas of counseling in the life of the church has to be premarital counseling. Often seen as a perfunctory hurdle to jump through, premarital counseling can quickly become stale and mechanical. Rob Green has provided the church an excellent new resource for premarital counseling that is biblically-saturated, Christ-centered, and clearly written. From the discussion questions at the end of each chapter to the guide for mentors in the back, this book is a perfect blend of theology for real life.” —Jonathan Holmes, Pastor of Counseling, Parkside Church, author of The Company We Keep: In Search of Biblical Friendship 

“I would have loved to read this book with my wife while we were engaged. So practical, so wise. Engaged couples, listen carefully to Rob Green.” —Andy Naselli, Assistant Professor of New Testament and Biblical Theology, Bethlehem College & Seminary, Minneapolis, MN

“. . . with Jesus as the center of your life.” Rob Green embeds those vital words into the title of each chapter in Tying the Knot. Marital love, problem solving, roles and expectations, communication, finances, community, intimacy—all the issues that every marriage faces—can be addressed with self as the center (solution-focused) or with Jesus as the center (gospel-centered and soul-u-tion-focused). Whether you’re a pastor, counselor, marriage mentor, premarital couple, or married couple, use Tying the Knot to join marriages to the cross. From now on, this is the book I will recommend for premarital and marital counseling.” —Bob Kellemen, Author of Gospel-Centered Counseling andGospel Conversations

“Rob Green has provided us with a wonderful new gospel-centered resource to help engaged couples prepare for marriage. This book repeatedly emphasizes that marriage is founded upon God’s love for us in Christ and is filled with personal examples and practical illustrations which come from years of faithful biblical counseling. One of the best qualities of Tying the Knotis its brevity. Rob covers the most important issues succinctly so that a busy engaged couple should have sufficient time to complete this study and the homework assignments in the months leading up to marriage. Another unique feature is that Rob has gone to extra effort (including an appendix) to make it easy for a mentor couple to work through this material with an engaged couple. I am sure that the Lord will use this book to bless many and I look forward to using it with many couples in the future.” —Dr. Jim Newheiser, Executive Director, The Institute for Biblical Counseling and Discipleship (ICBD)

Tying the Knot is a great book for those considering marriage. It was written by a fellow counselor with a wealth of practical experience in helping marriages get and stay healthy. Who better to help a couple navigate the most important issues from a biblical perspective to ensure a great marriage from the start? The topics are highly relevant and the homework will help any counselor or couple to put these crucial lessons into practice. I gladly recommend this book to anyone involved in premarital counsel or work.” —Dr. Garrett Higbee, Executive Director of Biblical Soul Care, Harvest Bible Chapel and of the Biblical Counseling Coalition

“Firmly placing Jesus at the center of your marriage is the consistent theme that runs throughout this book. Tying the Knot doggedly shows the connection between having such an amazing Savior and things like communication or budgets. Where it can be easy to fall into mechanistic teaching, Rob Green draws the line from Christ’s obedience and provision to our lives. I appreciated his focus on the community of Christ and its importance in marriage. I recommend this book to anyone who is doing premarital counseling.” —Elyse Fitzpatrick, Author of Counsel from the Cross

“Even if you never got farther than chapter 1(“Jesus Must Be the Center of Your Life”) in Tying the Knot, this book would be well worth reading. But if you continue reading, you’ll find treasure piled upon treasure. This book will strengthen not only those just starting out in marriage, but also those who have been married for decades. Read it and be encouraged.” —Amy Baker, Ministry Resource Director, Faith Church, Lafayette, IN; author of Picture Perfect: When Life Doesn’t Line Up

Tying the Knot offers acompelling vision of how Jesus must be central to your life and marriage. Such a vision gives hope, brings relief, and most important, stirs your affections for Christ. Rob, a seasoned husband and pastor, applies timeless gospel truths to matters of the heart while offering practical biblical guidance for those approaching their wedding day and for those married for years. I wholeheartedly recommend Tying the Knot.” —Robert K. Cheong, Pastor of Care, Sojourn Community Church, Louisville, KY

“Rob has masterfully woven together three crucial elements for marriage and marriage preparation. Tying the Knot is solidly biblical, immensely practical, and unapologetically Christ-centered. Christian couples, pastors, and lay leaders will be well served in making this book one of their go-to resources for marriage preparation, and the church will be well served by this book for generations to come.” —Jack Delk, Pastor for Counseling – North Campus, Bethlehem Baptist Church, Minneapolis, MN

“Dr. Green has provided a resource I didn’t know I needed so badly. Like many pastors, I use my own material but have always been suspicious that it needed improvement. Suspicion confirmed. Green understands two things particularly well: the dynamics of how real people relate and how those dynamics reveal their constant need for Jesus Christ. The practical exercises that flow from these insights will make it easy on counselors helping couples to prepare for marriage.” —Dr. Jeremy Pierre, Associate Professor of Biblical Counseling & Dean of Students, The Southern Baptist Theological Seminary

“How does God minister his grace through you to another one of his children in marriage? In a culture of self, where can one get guidance for a Savior-focused marriage? In Tying The Knot, Rob Green provides a biblical, Christ-centered, practical, hope-filled tool to assist individuals in learning how to partner with Christ to become instruments of his grace to their spouses.” —Dr. A. Charles Ware, President of Crossroads Bible College; coauthor of Just Don’t Marry One and Christ-Centered Biblical Counseling

“No one on earth truly knows what you will face in marriage—not in the details at least. Endless are the possible joys and pains, the trials and circumstances, the sins and graces, the shifts and surprises, the people who will come and go. Everything will change. Preparing for this is a serious task. Rob Green offers a kind of preparation for marriage that does not center upon the ever-shifting circumstances of life, but upon the Lord Jesus Christ and upon his everlasting Word. Tying the Knot labors to orient you around the Person who will be there, who knows what will come, who is faithful and mighty, and who will give you manifold wisdom for the endless possibilities of marriage.” —John Henderson, Associate Pastor, Del Ray Baptist, Alexandria, VA

“Premarital counseling is needed now more than ever in our culture. The scourge of unhappy marriages and so-easy divorce has led many to believe that marriage is an institution that is no longer workable. Tying the Knot is a hope-filled, theologically sound, ‘you can do marriage God’s way and here’s how’ manual. Green’s careful unpacking of key Scriptures coupled with practical application assignments makes this book a winner. It is intended as a premarital counseling manual, but it would also be helpful for small group study or a sermon-series primer. Get it and use it!” —Randy Patten, Director of Training and Advancement, The Association of Certified Biblical Counselors

“Dr. Rob Green’s succinct and timely resource, Tying the Knot, helps couples strengthen their relationships with each other and with Christ as they work with a mentor to align their goals for the future with the biblical wisdom found in God’s Word. The well-planned discussion questions in each chapter, the outline of the book, and the very helpful ‘Just for the Mentors’ section are but three of the great aspects of this book that will be much appreciated by pastors and all those who conduct premarital counseling.” —Mark E. Shaw, Pastor and Executive Director, Vision of Hope; author of The Heart of Addiction and Addiction-Proof Parenting

“Companies have start-up manuals that they require you to read and follow when beginning a new job. Yet when it comes to starting one of the most important human relationships—marriage—many do not seek or even know to seek guidance and preparation from above for what is ahead. Rob has contributed a tremendous resource for the caring of souls in the church where new marriage engagements are concerned. Tying the Knot is Christ-centered, biblically-based, and easy to comprehend. This book comprehensively addresses the key issues in beginning and growing a marriage and would be invaluable for anyone embarking on their marital journey. I highly recommend this to pastors, counselors, young couples, and even as a refresher for married couples.” —Stuart W. Scott, Professor of Biblical Counseling, The Master’s College

“There has long been a need for a solid premarital counseling curriculum that roots everything in Scripture, is realistic about the joys and challenges of marriage, and most importantly makes Christ central to everything. Rob Green’s Tying the Knotaccomplishes this, and offers much, much more.” —Deepak Reju, Pastor of Biblical Counseling and Family Ministry, Capitol Hill Baptist Church, Washington, DC; author of The Pastor and Counseling and On Guard; President of the Board, Biblical Counseling Coalition

“As you anticipate your wedding, one of life’s biggest events, there’s no greater gift than a wise friend to help guide you along the pathway of preparation and decision-making. Rob Green serves as your friend on this journey, assisting you to build a foundation for a strong and lasting marriage. In addition to his useful teaching, the practical exercises per chapter, and mentor appendix prove invaluable.” —Kevin Carson, Pastor, Sonrise Baptist Church, Ozark, MO; Professor, Baptist Bible College and Theological Seminary, Springfield, MO



    Marriage is taken very lightly at times, but if people would read a book like this with a mentor and actually do the work, I believe they would either realize they aren’t ready for marriage or they would know how to make it through the rough spots easier. Each chapter has incredible advice that lines up with scripture. Then there is homework, which includes things like action steps, thinking about your past, memorizing scripture, praying for your fiance, and the author suggests other books that could be helpful on this journey. I think this is one of the best books on premarital advice I have read. I would highly recommend it to anyone engaged.

    Written by The Talbert Report on March 18, 2016


    While I did receive this book after my husband and I got married, we are only recently married so we still enjoy reading marriage advice books. This one is a great option for those who aren’t able to participate in marriage counseling! While I highly recommend marriage counseling, I understand it’s not an option for everyone. This book covers all of the important points that traditional marriage counseling covers, and you can read it at your own pace! Definitely a great read for all couples!

    Written by The Librarian’s Bookshelf on March 17, 2016


    I really feel that premarital counseling should be required for anyone planning on getting married, in order to learn how to deal all the issues that will surely come up. The book recommends using a spiritual mentor to help you in areas you may not be aware you need help in. While every chapter is filled with great advice and some homework to do, I especially liked the homework discussion questions in the chapter on finances. I sure would have appreciated having a mentor help us with finances. I think this will make a great gift for a couple who wants a Christ-Centered marriage.

    Written by Frugal Shopping and More on March 15, 2016
    Read my full review: https://www.amazon.com/review/R32I2JEQABZAAY/ref=cm_cr_rdp_perm?ie=UTF8&ASIN=194257259X


    This little book is a wonderful little handbook for premarital counseling, it would be great for Pastor’s to have on hand or an engaged couple to go through on their own. I like how the book is divided in between 9 session making it perfectly doable and very essential for a young couple preparing for marriage. This book handles a lot of the big issues that soon to be married couples really need to discuss and get on the same page about, issues like communication. finances, etc. In a world rift with divorce this book is a good resource to help couples get their journey started out on a firm foundation. I received a copy of this book in exchange for my honest opinion.

    Written by Perfect Beginnings on March 15, 2016


    Tying the Knot by Rob Green is very easy to read, while at the same time having that in-depth premarital counseling guide.

    Mr. Green also stresses on how important the relationship with Christ in each person’s life.The ONLy relationship that should be more important than the one between a husband and wife.

    Written by Our Perfectly Imperfect Life! on March 15, 2016
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    Tying the Knot is an easy-to-read yet in-depth premarital counseling guide. Each chapter focuses on one area of marriage: love, communication, conflict, etc. Author Rob Green also stresses the importance of each person’s relationship with Christ—the one relationship that should be more important than the one between spouses.

    Each chapter ends with discussion questions that, if taken seriously, can draw a couple closer together, as well as reveal potential relationship problems. This is a great guide for a couple preparing for marriage.

    Written by Christian Chick’s Thoughts on March 14, 2016
    Read my full review: https://www.amazon.com/review/R4358KXLD66U4/ref=cm_cr_rdp_perm


    This is a small book, and an easy read that is short in duration. It focuses on Christ centered marriage. This book focuses on how to have a strong marriage that is centered on Biblical principles and Christ. It says, “A Premarital Guide to a Strong & Lasting Marriage,” but it is more than that. One need not be engaged or even newly married to gain from this book. Even if you are not married, it can help you in choosing a life partner. On the flip side, if you have been married several years you can still gain a great deal if insight and thought from this. I could even see it helping those who are going through marital trouble.

    Written by Through The Open Window on March 14, 2016
    Read my full review: https://www.amazon.com/review/R1KXU8MFRRI1NV/ref=cm_cr_rdp_perm


    A complete guide to premarital counseling with Christ at the center!

    I really enjoyed this book. I feel like Rob did a great job of outlining each chapter and making it understandable for couples. He touched on super important topics like finances, conflict, church community, and many other things. The best part, in my opinion, is how Jesus-central it was! I felt like he did a great job keeping everything solidly rooted in scripture.

    If you are a counselor, looking to be a mentor for premarital counseling, or interested in premarital counseling for you and your significant other, this is definitely the book for you. You can rest assured the advice will be sound, the conversation stimulating, and the guidance always toward the Lord and His plan for marriage.

    Written by Thinking Thoughts on March 14, 2016
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    This book was easy to read yet deep and full of excellent Biblical advice!

    I have read several books of this nature so didn’t know how much I would benefit from this book. This one has basic essentials as well as fresh wisdom which will help any young- or older- person before marriage.

    As an unmarried person, I loved reading this book and hope it will help me if I ever marry. As and after reading this book I was inspired to have a better idea and Biblical understanding of the reason and joy of marriage. I do recommend this book for dating/courting, and/or engaged couples. Go through this book carefully and prayerfully, discussing every chapter and you will definitely benefit from it!

    Written by Books, Beautiful Books on March 12, 2016
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    When I signed up to review Tying the Knot, I thought I’d read it, then pass it on to my son, then my daughter (both in their early to mid twenties, and each has a “significant other”), to read through. Well, that isn’t how best to use this book!

    It is meant to be read by a couple, individually. There are assignments at the end of each chapter, for each member of the couple to do on his/her own, then compare answers with each other, and then meet together with a mentor/counselor/pastor.

    I like the book. I appreciate the information shared, and find it very useful.

    Who knows? Maybe I will be going through this book with my young adult children, and their significant others, someday!

    Written by Life at Rossmont on March 11, 2016
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    Rob Green is a pastor who has worked with thousands of couples, both before and after marriage. His new book, Tying the Knot: A Premarital Guide to a Strong & Lasting Marriage, encourages couples to make the most of this time of preparation. While the book can be used just by the couple planning their wedding, Rob encourages them to find a mentor (or mentor couple) to work through it with them.

    In the introduction, Rob addresses two extremes about how we view marriage. The first is that marriage is hard and difficult. The second is that “marriage will be wonderful without any effort,” which is probably closer to how most of us view it. The reality is somewhere in the middle:

    God has given us marriage to enjoy.

    Written by The Koala Mom on March 11, 2016


    I loved the book! It is a quick read and it is a really good guide for nurturing a good Biblically based marriage!

    Written by A Simple Life, really?! on March 1, 2016
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